The reason behind the existence of this article in the digital medium is to help you, dear surfer, to plunge into the world of flowers. They are a language of their own. What does the name Mary Wortley mean to you? Probably nothing. It will in a second. Lady Montague, as she was also known, was the wife of a British ambassador to Turkey in the early 18th century. She was a prolific writer and an anthropologist who studied the women of the Ottoman Empire while there with her husband. She is credited with having introduced from the language of flowers to Victorian England, something which she learned from her time in the Ottoman Empire. Every flower had a meaning and the giving of flowers as gifts really started picking up once people realized the vast variety of feelings and messages that could be conveyed through the same. People would send complex messages using different flowers. Each bouquet had a definite message. Keeping that in mind, we have compiled here for you, a breakdown of bouquets for every significant occasion when people gift flowers to each other. Learning the language of flowers sounds fun! Let’s do it!
1) Birthday Bouquets:
Birthdays are special. We all have either celebrated our own or someone else’s at one point or another. Did you know that each month has a flower of its own, also known as the birth month flower? The reason we are mentioning birth flowers here is that it can help you easily decide what kind of a bouquet you want to give someone, depending on the month. For example, violets are the flower for the month of February. Using the knowledge behind the same, you can build a bouquet using violets to gift to someone who has their birthday in the month of February. Since violets are not very fragrant, you can complement a bouquet of violets with flowers that are known for their sweet fragrance. Moreover, knowing that the dominant color scheme will be violet/blue, you can complement these flowers with orange or bright yellow flowers. This can allow for a vibrant yet understated color scheme to be presented to the receiver, which says happy birthday but doesn’t scream it in their face. You can also go by the flowers that are designated to each zodiac sign in order to make them even more personalized for the person’s birthday.
Usually, birthday bouquets are a reminder of the fact that the day is special because of the birthday person being born on that day. A fruity, spunky scented arrangement along with contrasting bright and light flowers reflects the dynamism that a birthday represents and makes the receiver feel special as so much care was taken in arranging a bouquet just for their special day. If it is someone in the family or a loved one, you can even use the flowers they specifically like or smells they are more attracted to and build a bouquet around that. When it comes to flowers, the possibilities are endless. There is umpteen number of smells and colors to choose from. However, it is important to remember not to give a bouquet containing overpowering scented flowers as well as not to keep the contrast between the colors too strong. Subtlety is key.
Next is the birthday card. A simple note saying how much you appreciate the person or wish only the best for their future goes a long way in putting a smile on their face. If it is a loved one like your wife or any other family member, a bit more of a detailed expression of how much you love them and care about their well-being reminds them of your importance in their life. People like knowing that they are cared for and whether they admit it or not, most people want to feel special on their birthday. So, make them feel like it is. Say it with flowers!
2) Mother’s & Father’s Day Bouquets
What are we if not the children of our parents? For all of us who are fortunate enough to have loving parents, it is of utmost importance to show them your appreciation. After all, they sacrificed so much to make sure you were taken care of ever since you were a little pup. First, let’s discuss Mother’s Day bouquets.
If people had to pick their favorite parent, at least more than half the people would say their mother. The reason is obvious. Mothers spend a lot more time with newborn babies and this bond formed in infancy lasts throughout their lives. For our mothers, we are always little infants and they can seldom look ahead of making sure you are well-fed and feeling alright. The chief concerns for mothers are their children’s safety and longevity. No one is as selfless as a good mother and it is paramount that we show them the appreciation they deserve not only on Mother’s Day but every day. However, for now, let’s talk about this very special day dedicated to just the Mothers of the world.
Signifying the womb in which she forms you and carries you in for nine months, the use of carnations is popular in Mother’s Day bouquets. They are large multifold flowers that look really frilly and are soft to the touch. These flowers placed in the center of a floral basket in red or pink colors can look exquisite while you garnish the edges with long green leaves going out of the bouquet representing nourishment and health. After all, it is your mother who is ever so worried about yours. Besides, green is always a very fresh color to have in your bouquet in order to give it a natural look. A personalized note about how much you love and appreciate her and everything she has done for you is sure to jerk a few tears of joy out of her proud eyes on this very special day.
Let’s not forget the other half of the parenting team. Fathers often don’t get enough credit when it comes to the raising of children and this used to be true in older times when men would often be busy working labor jobs while mothers took care of all child-rearing responsibilities. Fathers were the disciplinarians of the house, using their strong voice and commanding speech to bring order in the chaos that is childhood. However, with the decline of sexism in patriarchal societies, fathers have begun to play a pivotal role in parenting. There are many children who think of their fathers fondly when it comes to their childhood, always indulging their whims and fancies, and being there for mothers when they need them to take over. A central decisive figure in the household, fathers deserve an equally bold bouquet.
Keeping the motif of one strong central figure, you can build a bouquet around a strong-stemmed bold colored large flower. A lot of tropical flowers fit this profile. Rhizomes and Orchids are advisable. These unique flowers not only look stunning but are tall and have a lot of character to them which you can adapt to the feelings you want to convey. For example, a deep respect and strength can be shown using lighter colors while love and celebration can be expressed by bright red or orange flowers. Men like flowers as much as women do and giving such a well-thought bouquet to a doting dad on his special day is sure to touch his heart.
3) Valentine’s Day Bouquets
St. Valentine was woefully unaware that one day his name would unanimously symbolize love across the globe. The gift card industry supposedly does most of its business on this very day. Flowers and chocolates are a must we are told by ladies and, whether or not that is true, nothing says I love you or I like you like a beautiful bouquet.
When it comes to Valentine’s Day, uniqueness is key. This day has been celebrated for a long while in modern times and has always been synonymous with red roses. To stand out, we need to dig deeper, so to speak. Yes, red roses are beautiful and smell quite good as well. But, there are other red flowers that say “I love you” and not many people know about them. Red Tulips, for example, have symbolized “True Love” since the language of flowers was introduced in Victorian England by Lady Montague. These exquisite flowers when held together in a nice bow look a lot more appealing than a bushel of roses.
Besides, your love interest is sure to notice that you did not just fall back on the conventional rose and actually made an effort to show her that she is special. This works the other way around as well if you are a woman wooing your man. The leaves of tulips are gorgeous when folded in on themselves and complement the red tulips perfectly. A simple neat bow around some 10 odd stems of tulips with the leaves folded inwards and the red tulip bulbs pushing out looks luxurious. While we are on the subject, did you know tulips were once worth more than gold? Nice little feather in your cap when your love interest finds out about this, as you are sure to tell them afterward! Be subtle! That’s all we will say.
Another approach is to go with roses but to change up the colors. Red is obviously a must, but you can compliment red roses with white, yellow and any color of rose that you think he or she will like. Roses can actually be colored once they have been cut. All you need to do is buy white roses the night before. Cut the stems in a slant and put them in water that has colored dye in it. The rose will soak up the water and develop the color that you put in the water. You can even make multi-colored roses by splitting the stem into two or three smaller stems and placing each in a separate container with different colored dyes added to the water. This will allow the white rose to suck up all three colors and what you will end up with can only be described as a marvel of nature. If you don’t believe us, look up multi-colored roses. So, there you go! This way you are sure to stand out in his or her eyes, If you are already in love, it shows how much you care, if you are currently wooing them then it shows effort and who doesn’t like that?
4) Wedding Bouquet
Weddings are an important moment in everyone’s life. Despite a rise in divorce rates, people still believe that you only get married once. This optimism is worthy of commemorating and once again flowers are there to help us out. With wedding bouquets, it becomes important to focus on the actual structuring of the bouquet itself. Aspects of a floral arrangement such as scale, depth, line, balance, and rhythm are often overlooked. Let’s take a deeper look at these important style elements and design us an outstanding wedding bouquet.
Balance emphasizes the material used in creating the bouquet defining the form and color that the bouquet is going to have at the end. You can create a symmetrical bouquet with all the materials equally divided on either side of the bouquet or you can go for the asymmetrical approach that splits the materials used in an uneven manner while keeping the balance of color and form. The second thing to keep in mind is the scale which is essentially the size of the bouquet. “Is it going to be a large one or not?” “And how large?” become the focus of this element. Depth and line go hand in hand as they deal with drawing the viewer’s eye along a certain path giving the feeling of depth to the bouquet. And finally, rhythm is the flow which becomes apparent in the bouquet by the end of the arrangement. Rhythm is dependent on the colors used and the contrast created.
Using white roses and purple calla lilies as the primary flowers in the bouquet is the way to go. Moreover, being symmetrical in our distribution of materials is also immensely important when it comes to creating bouquets for weddings. One good way of doing so is staggering the white roses and purple lilies one after the next as we move down the bouquet. The scale of the bouquet is going to be medium sized as calla lilies have tall green stems and it is important to use the stems as they will produce a noticeable contrast against the striking colors of the lilies. The bouquet will have the shape of a large blossoming flower as the lily stems tied together will act a singular stem for the whole bouquet. The flowers will be arranged such that the white roses fill the gaps between two calla lilies, leaving no empty space. The overall arrangement of the white roses and the purple lilies should be such that they resemble a complete flower when put together, with the stems tied together with a white ribbon. To create rhythm, we will complement the edges of our flower-shaped bouquet with tall green leaves that shoot off from the bouquet and tip down. Present this bouquet at any wedding and you are sure to be complimented on both your effort and taste.
5) Funeral Bouquet/Wreaths
Alas, we must also speak of death. What began with birthday bouquets, must surely end with funeral bouquets. A somber event to attend, flowers often give a sense of dignity and import to the proceedings. But, with funerals, the choices are surely limited. You must not present bouquets loaded with colorful flowers and arrangements that are eye-catching as it is not a celebration but a mourning. White is usually always a staple at funerals. White flowers are, hence, ever present. And aptly so, as white flowers always give a sense of peace and tranquility which is much needed after the passing of a loved one.
Knowing details of the deceased’s life are also crucial to this arrangement. If it is known what their favorite flower was, it is always a good idea to create a bouquet around that flower. It is a way of paying homage to the departed and something to ease the pain of their survivors. However, if you are not aware of this information, you can always play it safe with white flowers. A dash of blue here and there never goes remiss.
White flowers often used in funeral bouquets are white roses, monte casino asters, and Asiatic lilies. These three are complementary white flowers in varying sizes that when assembled together in a bouquet look very dignified and serve as a reminder that even in the face of death, beauty exists. A healthy portion of green leaves is a must to offset all the different whites used and create contrast. The green also symbolizes life and once again is a symbol of unbroken spirit.
If you are not wanting to go the beaten path, you can opt for some light-colored alternatives. Light blues and purples make striking bouquets that are still understated and beautiful. Using purple calla lilies and blue hydrangeas are good options. Also, blue stars and blue delphiniums are good alternatives. Do make sure to add a touch of white here and there. To avoid using big white flowers, which will inevitably pull the attention away from the blue and purples, use lilacs or white hyacinths. This will give the bouquet a somber balance which is much needed as too much blue can stick out like a sore thumb.
Lastly, there is always the option of presenting a wreath instead of a bouquet. Wreaths are usually all white when presented at a funeral and contain a wide assortment of different shaped white flowers. Wreaths efficiently convey a strong sense of remorse without overpowering fancy colors or arrangement. Classic!
In recap, we have looked at 5 types of bouquets & their Significance. In addition, we have also examined the methods by which we can decide on a bouquet. Be it the likes of the person the bouquet is being presented to, or based on other factors such as the month of the year, seasonal availability, or the message you are trying to convey. Each flower has its own meaning and we highly recommend learning about the language of flowers. Earlier we mentioned Mary Worley and her introduction of the flower language to Victorian England. This is actually a vast subject and there was a time when people used to say very complex things and express themselves completely using just flowers. Especially in a time when it was not appropriate to speak of intimate matters in public, people had to resort to using flowers instead. Very interesting stuff. If you are interested, that is.
The different meanings of flowers, their colors, their smells, the arrangement itself, all matter when presenting a bouquet, no matter the occasion. It helps to know not only about the different types of flowers but also the different ways bouquets can be used and arranged. It all depends on the occasion for which you are presenting the flowers. Birthday bouquets have upbeat colors and smell, Mother’s Day & Father’s Day bouquets are all about appreciation and love for your mum and dad. Valentine’s Day bouquets are all about standing out and catching the attention of your love interest. While wedding bouquets are more focused on the actual arrangement of the flowers used and the aesthetics of the bouquet as a whole, funeral bouquets are more closely related to the symbolism that lies behind the use of certain flowers and floral arrangements. These bouquets are used to convey condolences and represent a sign of support through a difficult time for the survivors of the deceased.
Knowing the etiquette associated with each occasion is extremely important. Through this detailed guide, we have been able to help in some way and give you a better idea of all the things you can consider before settling on a bouquet. We understand the struggle of choosing out of so many options. Some structure helps. Here’s to hoping, we provided that for you!